5 Red Flags For Men Dating A New Woman

I've done a couple of post on warning signs for women, now it's time to explore women themselves. This is for all the good guys out there. If you’re a player then I think you deserve one of these girls. lol I’m kidding. No one deserves heartache or their time wasted.  I've been talking to a few males in my circle and they seem to be attracting the wrong type of woman. Maybe it’s not their fault; some women send over drinks and approach them. Conversation starts and before you know it she’s got you hooked. Of course you're physically attracted to her, but then she knows exactly what to say and when to bat her eyes and you find yourself staring at her when she looks away. You embark on a whirlwind romance, and then her true colors start to show. By the time you want to cool things off you find yourself tagged within a Facebook rant calling you names and filled with lies or worse you wake up to slashed tires and numerous calls and texts for the next few weeks. But there were signs all along. They say love is blind, but this wasn't love. Take a step back from dreamland, read on and see if anything sounds familiar:

She’s insecure. This girl is always fishing for compliments and while it’s nice to receive compliments, she will steer the conversation more than once towards her and how awesome she is. The sad truth is deep down inside, she’s not confident and it manifests itself by checking on you and/or trying to make you jealous. *Rick met a girl named **Zora who was a “model”. I believe she did a few flyers for some clubs here and there. It was always about Zora. One night Rick could not accompany her to an outing with her friends. Zora was not happy about this and was sure to tell Rick that a lot of guys were checking her out and she could have went home with any one of them if she wanted to. Rick was indifferent to this. He simply shrugged and said fine, whatever. Unhappy with the fact that Rick was not showing any signs of jealousy, she flew into a rage and promptly smacked him across the face. Rick did not look at her, he simply told her to get out of his car. Long story short, he had to call block her (the Mr. Number app works wonders). Other signs that she could be insecure: She has a new group of “close” friends every few months, she always has “haters” (I stand by my theory that some people invent haters) and possibly utters phrases like “other girls don’t like me”. She could possibly be an exotic dancer or have a somewhat similar occupation or just takes pix in her lingerie and posts them online.

She’s materialistic. This woman thinks she is the next Kim Kardashian. Sure, we women love to dress up once in a while, but this chick always has her hair and makeup done, quite possibly at the gym as well. This woman likes to take and take and take until you have nothing left to give. Your pictures together are posed perfectly and a little unnatural. But the thing is, just like her purse is an expensive accessory, you too are an accessory. You’re there to look good on her arm. She laments to all of her friends how you took her to such and such restaurant (orchestrated by her of course) and bought her this bracelet (snaps a pic and puts in on Twitter). Being arm candy may seem like fun for a guy, but you have to keep up appearances or face her wrath. How dare you not? To be involved with a woman like this means to come across hidden receipts and bouts or "retail therapy". It means to be in debt within 5 years. Do you really want to cash in your 401k now?

She’s needy. She doesn't want you to leave her. She showers you with gifts. Whatever you need she has it. She seems to come in your life right when you need her the most. And that’s the point. Her rationale is: if you need her, then you won’t leave her. Little by little she starts to push the status of the relationship. It’s only been a few weeks, but in her mind, it’s serious. This woman is the first to drop the “L” word. You met at the end of January and she’s already surprising you with a Valentine’s Day gift. Your Facebook status still says “single” while hers has changed to “in a relationship”. But no pressure though, right?

                                                      Look into my eyes. You will do as I say.

Her life is in shambles. I call this woman Little Miss Hot Mess. Like the guy I mentioned in 5 Signs He's Not A Nice Guy, she plays the victim card frequently. Most of her stories are pity parties and she puts it all out there. You know everything about her in 2 days. She has no filter, no discretion. Often times she needs financial help. She may even have an ex still “stalking” her. Her entire being screams “damsel in distress”. Everything is falling apart and you’re the hero there to save her. Don’t. Back away. There’s actually improvement for this one, but it’s a matter of timing. Unfortunately, it could take her years to get it right.

She’s a Manipulative Sweetie Pie – The most dangerous one.  You catch her in “little white lies” all the time.  She can turn things on you all at once and make you seem like the bad guy. She is a master at turning heated discussions in her favor. Really there is no arguing with her. She can twist your very words. No matter what, she will never see that she did anything wrong and will have everyone believing that she was the one wronged by you. She can be private and only show what she wants to show to the world. She has crafted an innocent image that can’t easily be shattered. This woman may even have you think you are the one who is crazy. With this chick, the devil is in the details. What do you catch her doing? Good deeds on the down low for a friend hurting financially? Or little digs at a coworker or neighbor she is “not too fond of” (i.e. hiding mail, kicking trash over the fence). If it's the latter then RUN. 

Hopefully this has given men some knowledge in identifying these types of women. This latest piece was written by discussing women with a couple of close male friends/relatives and also by using the power of observation. Men were there any types of women that I've left off?

*Name changed to protect those dear to me.

**Her name really was exotic and I wanted to keep the theme.