Before feathers get ruffled just know that the reverse can
be true for women.
The saying “Nice guys finish last” is just not true. I've met a few
nice, great guys. But they’re always taken! Why? Because these guys are what real
women want. The idea that women always go for a jerk is total bull. The women that do that aren't right in the
head and have obvious self-esteem issues. We don’t want you if you’re going for
women with a screw loose. Women who have
it together mentally and financially are not in the market to be disrespected
or have their time wasted. They know they deserve better. The problem is that
some guys genuinely think they are a nice guy. Yet there’s an issue that they’re
not seeing. Being single, people approach you and want to get to know you and I’m always open to making friends.
This has given me a great opportunity to sit…..and watch….and wait. A jerk in
disguise always reveals himself sooner or later. Read on to find out 5 signs to
eliminate him as a nice guy.
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1. One of the first sentences out of his mouth are “Look, I’m a
nice guy”. Who is he trying to convince?
As they say actions speak louder than words and if he has to vouch for
himself because no one else will, then that’s a red flag. (Beware of the wingman endorsement too).
2. He talks bad about his ex.
First of all no one should be talking about their exes at all, but
especially not in an unfavorable way.
That says more about him than it does her. He obviously hasn't gotten over whatever it was with her. And another thing, what’s he going to say behind
your back?
3. He plays the victim card. Bad things have happened to all of
us. Whether it’s a bad childhood or his ex cheated on him and left him for
someone else, if he is constantly “woe is me” something is up. It’s like they’re
trying to get a pity date out of you. Some women do this too, a lot.
4. He treats his family bad. Sure he sent flowers to your job
and took you to the ballet, but if he ends a conversation with his sister in a
barrage of swear words he is definitely acting like he’s a nice guy only with you. Our family gets on our nerves sometimes, but
that’s no reason to be ugly with them. At the end of the day they are still
family and you need to cut this guy loose.
5. He gets flirty quickly. There’s a difference between the
cute flirty and the sexual flirty. If the first calls/texts get sexual, it’s
clear what he has on his mind. He is not interested in getting to know you nor
does he care about what you've accomplished. Walk away.
Remember, most guys are never truly themselves when you meet
them. Some will say and do whatever they need to get you into bed. Respect yourself. I've seen way too many girls
crying, feeling used and betrayed. They’re
not going to come at you in true form. It’s going to be subtle. Ladies, if we collectively raise the standard then they’ll have no choice but to rise to it.
What other things could be added to the list? Men, was there a woman that fooled you into
thinking she was sweet and innocent?
Not a bad post, but I disagree with #2. On most first dates I've been on, I usually get asked about my last relationship. I don't have a problem with it, because I can understand wanting to get a peek at how that person is in a relationship and how they might act when things go south. But to make that topic off limits just seems a bit impossible. Especially if kids are involved (i.e. baby mama's or daddys).
ReplyDeleteThe rest of the post I had no issue with. Hope this helps.
Take Care
Yeah, when you get asked you have to be honest to a certain extent. Didn't dive into that one. lol I go with a simple "It didn't work out." or "We were young." I get uncomfortable when people start to pry.
Deletesome of what you wrote is true but some ppl's family aren't really worth anything. Also some past relationships might have gone sour and have left that person a lil salty. The getting flirty too quick I can see how that erks you cause you like your space.
ReplyDeleteSo very true about the 5 you listed. I don't think I ever was the full me when trying to wooo a woman. As a guy it was more important to project what I thought mattered to the woman.
ReplyDeleteI sure don't miss the dating game.